#GOALS
^^^these pictures have nothing to do with this post. Just pretty pictures of Seattle that I haven’t posted yet :)
can we just talk about this #goals thing for a second? i hate seeing young girls commenting on fashion blogger’s pictures and tagging their friends saying “why isn’t this me” “#familygoals” etc. etc. I feel like it degrades yourself and your potential. social media is a tricky thing and even i have found myself wishing i was more like this person or had the things of that person. and you don’t even know these people that you are wishing to be! Obviously, goals are a great thing to have but your goal shouldn’t be to have someone else’s life. it’s great to admire someone, but you will never have the same hair as them and your child and husband will never look the same as theirs. And that’s okay! There’s nothing wrong with being inspired by them or their amazing outfits, but remember you should be happy and grateful for what you have now and for your situation!
Over the last few years, i’ve had the opportunity to meet some of these bloggers and let me tell you, they are not how they appear to be on their instagram posts. some are sweethearts for sure but some are entitled and frankly, rude. and i’m over here thinking…”girls want to BE this girl?! if only they knew her in real life!” they literally spend their life dressing up and taking posed pictures in the middle of a street. They get paid to wear and say certain things because it’s their job. Which means it’s not really real life. Which means you shouldn’t want that ;) If you haven’t read this girl’s story about leaving social media, you should! it’s a huge eye opener. In one of her videos, she said this, “I spent hours watching perfect girls online, wishing I was them. Then when I was ‘one of them’ I still wasn’t happy, content or at peace with myself.” wow! i know there are plenty of blogs out there that are useful, productive, and uplifting. those are so great and i love them. i also don’t plan on leaving social media because i love it and it can be used for good. we just shouldn’t look at people online who we don’t know and wish to be just like them. when i found myself feeling bad about myself when i looked at another person’s feed, i stopped following them. as pretty as their pictures are, it’s not worth it if you hate yourself and your life because of it! i love Hailey Devine’s stand on this issue as well (watch her most recent video about it!). she consistently tells people that numbers and followers don’t define you! yes, i am jealous of all of her travels but she is at a different point in her life and you shouldn’t compare your life to other people’s successes. plus, my life is pretty awesome too so i should focus on being grateful for that.
i hope no one ever looks at my blog and says “her life is perfect, they’re always doing fun things!” yes, we do a lot of fun things, but for the past four weeks, i have also been sitting at home on camp chairs watching netflix everyday! haha! if you follow me on snapchat, you would really see how imperfect our lives are! i just like to blog about the fun things. i also like to blog about city guides so everyone else can do the fun and cheap things we’re doing! i blog so me, my family, and my posterity can see what’s going on in my life. i love looking back on my blog to see all of these special memories!
Well, that’s my rant about social media. Feel free to argue or agree with me, I would love to hear your thoughts :) A quote I always remember is “comparison is the thief of joy.” So just don’t do it! Thanks for reading, as always!